this is why ‘new girl’ pisses me off

these are exactly the reasons why I don’t watch New Girl. It’s not that the show or acting is bad, it’s just that I can’t stand characters like this. 


And one of the male characters on the show goes goofy-eyed and clearly starts falling in love with her instead of, say, yelling, “You’re 27 years old, how do you not know how to dress and function yet? Get your shit together.”” 

That is what I feel like yelling a lot of the time. To myself and other girls my age. “Get your shit together.” Maybe the Hollywood stereotype used to be the blonde with daddy’s plastic. Now, it’s the bambi-eyed girl wearing the vintage dress and listening to ‘indie’ music who doesn’t know anything about the real world. And who doesn’t care. 

Hollywood is still teaching women that “dumb” is “attractive,” they’re just hipsterfying it.”

Get your shit together. It’s not ‘cute’. It’s ‘lazy’. And possibly pathetic. And I think I’ve just realized why I hate Zooey Deschanel’s character in New Girl. She embodies (albeit exaggeratedly) what I fear girls from our generation are going to become:

It’s okay to sit around. It’s okay to be twenty four or whatever and a college graduate and jobless. It’s okay to be a college graduate and still living at home. It’s okay to not know how to open a bank account, or pay bills, or even how to rent an apartment. It’s okay. Girls think it’s cute and guys think it’s cute and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. We’ll sit here and daydream and talk about how we’re living our lives and dreaming out loud. And we’re still jobless and we’re going to sit here and wait for our fairytale to come true. And maybe we’re still single. And we think that there’s a perfect guy waiting for us out there and we don’t have to do a thing. Not a thing. Just sit pretty and wait. We don’t have to change a thing. 

Because I personally don’t think it’s okay. I don’t think it’s okay to still be living off mummy and daddy when you’ve got a college degree and should rightfully be getting a job that allows you to survive on your own. I feel like so many of us are prepared to live in our little sheltered homes until a guy marries us and whisks us off to ANOTHER little sheltered home. Come on!

We can live in apartments of our own. We can find jobs that pay the rent. We can run our own home and be our own person. If we have to look toward pop culture for role models, why can’t we look up to the strong independent women? The ones who are determined that they CAN walk without needing someone to constantly hold their hand. 

And I annoy myself sometimes too with comments like “I wish I could live in a studio on my own, but I don’t think it’ll ever happen… The only time I’ll ever get a home all to myself is when I get married.” Wake UP, Michelle. I feel like society and pop culture is conditioning us to be lazier and lazier!

Femininity and feminism is such a contentious topic. I think that nowadays, girls use their ‘femininity’ as an excuse. An excuse to be weak. An excuse to be dependent and reliant. And excuse to be ‘cute’. A friend put it aptly when she said that true femininity is never weak. Completely true. But how many of us practice true femininity? Femininity seems to be something a lot of girls do not understand- hence the birth of ‘fake feminists’. 

I don’t know if I am a lot less tolerant of weak characters because of the fact that I am a writer. As writers, we are constantly revising characters and changing them. Many a time, I have killed or scrapped characters because they were too weak, or added nothing to the story. They had no purpose in it. Or more often, they were supposed to have a purpose but they just weren’t fulfilling it. And it makes me wonder whether we’re living our lives with a purpose. If I were a character in the story I was writing, would I scrap myself out? 

Do I want to read a story about a girl who is a college graduate, living at home with mum and dad paying the bills, who dreams about a better life but doesn’t go out and get it? Who waits for the day dad walks her down the aisle and hands her off to the guy who will pay the bills from then on? I could very easily be that girl. It would be comfortable being that girl. But it is not a story I would ever read. And heck it’s not the girl I would ever want to be. 

We were made for better. 

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